Who We Are

  • dragonmctt, stepmom
  • dh, custodial father
  • ss1, 19 yrs old
  • ss2, 16 yrs old

December 13, 2008

Winter Break Update 2

On the 10th, BM leaves a message for DH saying that she has a solution for what is going on. We're not sure if she is talking about the copy of the ID we need or the whole court thing because she of course made the message as vague as possible to force us to feign interest by contacting her. So DH emailed her back a few hours later asking what was on her mind. NO RESPONSE. He even tried to Skype Chat her, but nothing. WTF? Why would you go to the trouble of making a call that you have no intention of following through on? She did have time to leave a message for the boys, though. Go figure. Sooo, 7 days left for her to get the info to us or SS2 doesn't go. I can't believe she is going to make this drama right before the holiday! After this visit, only 8 more visits to arrange and we are DONE!

DH and I had a good laugh last night. We were commenting about how she hasn't responded. We thought, 'She must have realized she was acting rational and called for psychiatric help!' Wouldn't that be ironic? She acts off the wall all the time, and a moment of some clarity scares the crap out of her and she commits herself because something is not quite right. We were rolling on the floor! Not that we in any way think mental illness is funny, just the irony of how some Borderline/Narcissistic types think there is nothing wrong with them and they don't get help, and that thinking clearly would be as strange for them as a psychotic episode would be for us.

4 comments:

Stephanie said...

I will never understand the desire to increase the drama this time of year. Isn't there enough going on? And I hate that all of these BMs seem to not understand the impact their lack of planning has on the kiddos, as well. Ours go crazy when they don't know what's going on.

dragonmctt said...

I don't get it either! About a week and a half ago, the kids were asking when they were leaving, so we sat down with them and had them write the dates in their school planner. SS2 mentioned it again yesterday (I think he's starting to count down the days). It was a hard call, but we decided to let him know that there is a chance he might not be going. It is not going to be healthy for him to get all hyped up this week and then find out on the 22nd that he is not going without any warning. Then SS1 freaks out and says if SS2 is not going, he's not going. Ughhh! So we had to tell SS1 that is not an option, that he is not an unaccompanied minor because he is over 15 and he will be going. Can't she just send us the info already? If roles were reversed, and all that stood between DH seeing the boys was a copy of his ID, she would have had 15 copies the day after she requested it.

Smirking Cat said...

Hey, just checking in to see how you are doing! Hope all is well.

Anonymous said...

I'm dying to know what happened with your GAL and the Christmas trip. Are you all okay? I am the step-mother of 2 young men, aged 18 and 22. My husband signed a divorce agreement that provided for a portion of college tuition so we still have to deal with their mother, even though the oldest is graduating in May and the youngest now lives with us. I've finally come to the conclusion that this woman will always be a part of our lives and that nothing we do will impact her behavior. Though I have developed a rapport with her mother, who thankfully has stepped in when she has gotten really crazy.