Police Reports, Round 1, Trying to keep DH from the boys

BM's favorite tactic is to file police reports to document "her side" of events. She has yet to realize that a police report is just that, one side of a story, unless there is a full investigation and some type of criminal activity. None of her police reports have ever led to anything, except the check forgery, which actually earns a post all to itself. What is really sad is she continues to bring up things from her police reports as if the reports themselves prove that she was telling the truth, when in fact, that is not what a police report means. I don't think she will ever understand that.

12-6-99 - Domestic: BM states that DH had some type of recording device hidden behind the medicine cabinet in their bathroom and that he had come into the apartment and removed them. They were separated by now, and he had moved out, but he was still on the lease and did not enter illegally and had only gone to get some of his belongings. She states that he trashed her apartment. The whole tape recorder thing was her way to try to get some criminal charges pressed, and get DH out of the children's lives.

My favorite lines:

"She also stated she is seeking an attorney to try and get a restraining order as soon as possible." It took her until the end of the month. She obviously didn't realize you don't need an attorney for a restraining order.

"I then asked if she knew where her estranged husband lived, and she stated no. She thought he was at his mother's, but she did not have an address, only a phone number. When I called the Communications Center to get an address from the phone number, I was unable to get one." How can you be married to someone for 9 years and not be able to give your mother-in-law's address? I have a feeling she also gave a fake phone number, because his parents lived in the same house for years and hadn't ever changed their number, so the officer would have been able to get the address. BM just didn't want DH to be able to give his side.

Case Closed.



12-31-99 - Misdemeanor Battery: DH had gone over to BM's new residence to tell her the boys were upset that she hadn't called them as she said she would. The boys had spent the night with DH. Upon arriving around 8:30 am, DH saw BM get out of a man's car, which she said in the report was a "friend" but during the blow out about summer vacation this year, she refers to him as her "boss"(which is odd, since she claimed on the police report that she was unemployed). Regardless, DH at this point was still hoping to save the marriage for the kids sake, but it was perfectly clear that she had moved on (I seriously doubt they had gone for an early morning breakfast!) The "friend" took a swing at DH and DH swung back. The "friend" took off and later returned at the request of the police. DH wound up arrested as he admitted to hitting the "friend", however the State Attorney "having taken testimony under oath...concludes that the facts and circumstances revealed do not warrant prosecution at this time."

My favorite lines:

"...she ran into a neighbor's house to call 911. She stated she instructed the dispatcher that she would be standing outside."

"explained how to obtain the injunction, because of her statements in reference to her being afraid of her husband."

These two lines together just seem strange. If she was so scared of DH, why would she wait outside where DH was?

Case Closed.

1-20-2000 - Theft: A few days after her restraining order was denied, BM calls the police and says DH stole the boys social security cards and birth certificates and a key to her apartment.

My favorite lines:

"She stated she wants this incident documented because she is going to reapply for a restraining order."

"Due to the lack of evidence, I titled this report as a theft."

"I did not see any signs of tampering, damage or forced entry to the exterior, interior, front doorway, front windows and screened in porch area." Maybe 'cause it never happened?

Case Closed.

A few months after this is when BM took off to another state with the boys. All quiet on the police front for another year.